Tag: Personal Growth

  • This ChatGPT Prompt Builds a Custom Affirmation Deck

    This ChatGPT Prompt Builds a Custom Affirmation Deck

    Most affirmations suck.

    They’re vague. They’re cheesy. 

    They sound like something you’d read on the back of a cereal box.

    And worst of all, they don’t work.

    You read them. You maybe say them once. Then nothing happens. Zero change.

    Why?

    Because they’re not yours.

    They don’t connect to what you actually care about. 

    They don’t speak your language. 

    They’re not built around your goals, your doubts, your inner narrative.

    That’s why I built this.

    A ChatGPT prompt that gives you personalised, powerful affirmations based on what you want out of life. 

    Business. Confidence. Healing. Clarity. Whatever it is.

    It’s a mini mindset coach. Built with NLP. 

    Packed with strategy. And it actually listens.

    Let me show you how it works.

    Here’s how to run it

    You open ChatGPT.

    You paste this in:

    <System>
    You are an expert mindset coach and neuro-linguistic programming specialist.
    </System>

    <Context>
    The user wants to generate a personalized affirmation deck aligned with their personal, emotional, or career-oriented goals. This is to boost motivation, self-belief, and daily positivity.
    </Context>

    <Instructions>
    1. Analyze the user's stated goals.
    2. Extract key emotional desires and motivational triggers.
    3. Generate a deck of 10 daily affirmations tailored to those goals.
    4. Use present tense, empowering language, and visualization-based statements.
    5. Include one affirmation focused on resilience, one on identity ("I am" statement), and one on action-taking.
    </Instructions>

    <Constraints>
    - Each affirmation should be 1–2 sentences long.
    - Do not repeat sentence structures.
    - Avoid generic phrases like “You can do it” or “Believe in yourself.”
    - Keep the language emotionally rich and personalized.
    </Constraints>

    <Output Format>
    - Title the deck based on the user's goal (e.g., “Affirmations for Career Confidence”).
    - Number each affirmation.
    - Use bold for each affirmation’s first 2–3 words to emphasize key emotional anchors.
    - End the list with a motivational sign-off (e.g., “You’ve got this!” or “Let’s make it real.”).
    </Output Format>

    <Reasoning>
    Apply Theory of Mind to analyze the user's request, considering both logical intent and emotional undertones. Use Strategic Chain-of-Thought and System 2 Thinking to provide evidence-based, nuanced responses that balance depth with clarity.
    </Reasoning>
    <User Input>
    Reply with: "Please enter your affirmation deck goal and I will start the process," then wait for the user to provide their specific affirmation deck goal.
    </User Input>

    Then you type your goal. Just one sentence. Keep it simple.

    Maybe it’s “I want to stop overthinking.” Or “I want confidence in my work.” Doesn’t matter. Just be honest.

    That’s it.

    ChatGPT takes that one goal and builds a 10-card affirmation deck just for you.

    Not 10 random quotes. 10 sentences that hit deep. Because they’re built from your actual emotional wiring.

    One focuses on resilience. One on identity. One on action.

    Each one is short. Bold. Present tense.

    Print them. Save them. Read one every morning. 

    Say it out loud. Visualise it for 60 seconds. Then move.

    You’ll feel it. And you’ll move differently through your day. That’s the whole point.

    What makes it so damn useful

    First, it doesn’t start with advice. It starts with you.

    It reads your goal. Breaks down the emotional drivers underneath. Then speaks directly to those.

    Every affirmation is designed with NLP in mind. That means the words are chosen to trigger belief, not just sound nice.

    It avoids clichés at all costs. No, “you can do anything.” No “just believe.”

    Instead, it builds sentences that your brain won’t reject. 

    Ones that feel real enough to trust. And strong enough to repeat.

    And here’s the killer part: the structure never repeats.

    So each one hits in a slightly different way. You stay engaged. You stay listening. You stay believing.

    Who this is perfect for

    This is for you if:

    You’ve got goals, but your mindset’s shaky.

    You say “I’ll start tomorrow” too much.

    You’ve read all the books, but still don’t feel it.

    You’re a creator, founder, freelancer, athlete, or just someone who wants more out of themselves, this works.

    The psychology behind it

    Look, affirmations can work. But most don’t because they’re misaligned.

    If what you say and what you believe aren’t close, your brain tosses it out.

    This prompt fixes that.

    It builds affirmations that are emotionally rich, grounded in your own language, and structured to create movement, not just feel-good moments.

    It uses present tense. That’s key.

    And it ties belief to action. So it doesn’t stop at “I am.” It pushes you to “I do.”

    The end result? You hear it. You feel it. You start behaving differently.

    Let’s keep it simple

    You want change? It starts with what you say to yourself.

    Most of that internal dialogue is untrained. This trains it.

    One prompt. One goal. Ten sentences that hit harder than a shelf of self-help books.

    Run the prompt. Read your deck. Speak like the person you’re becoming.

    Let’s make it real.

  • I Gave ChatGPT 30 Days to Help Me Find a Passive Income Stream

    I Gave ChatGPT 30 Days to Help Me Find a Passive Income Stream

    Most passive income advice sucks.

    It’s either copy-paste junk that worked for some guy on YouTube. 

    Or it’s buried in complicated jargon. Or worse, scammy nonsense with zero context about your life.

    But here’s the truth.

    There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to passive income.

    You’ve got your own schedule. 

    Your own skills.

    Your own risk tolerance.

    And a million things competing for your attention.

    That’s why I built this.

    A 30-day sprint. Powered by ChatGPT.

    To help you find passive income ideas that actually fit your life.

    Not someone else’s.

    The Problem With Passive Income Advice

    Everyone tells you to “start a YouTube channel.” “Buy real estate.” “Write a course.”

    Cool. But does that make sense for you?

    Do you have the time? The cash? The interest to stick with it longer than two weeks?

    Probably not.

    Because those cookie-cutter ideas don’t account for your life.

    Most of us need something more practical. More tailored.

    Something that tests different income streams before we jump in.

    This solves that.

    How To Start Today

    You copy the prompt. Drop it in ChatGPT. Tell it you’re ready to begin.

    <System>
    You are a financial lifestyle coach specializing in helping individuals discover sustainable passive income sources suited to their personality, time availability, skills, and risk tolerance.

    </System>
    <Context>
    The user is embarking on a 30-day journey to explore and document various passive income streams. They want to evaluate these ideas based on feasibility, scalability, initial investment, time to break even, and alignment with their personal goals or interests. Each day focuses on a new income stream or angle.

    </Context>
    <Instructions>
    Your task is to design and guide a 30-day passive income exploration plan for the user. For each day:
    - Introduce a unique passive income idea.
    - Briefly explain how it works and real-world examples.
    - Ask the user to reflect on its feasibility in their life using a short questionnaire (provided below).
    - Invite the user to score each idea from 1-5 across 5 dimensions: Cost, Time, Skill Match, Long-Term Scalability, and Interest Level.
    - Suggest a mini action step they can do today to research or test this idea further (e.g., watching a tutorial, pricing a domain, signing up for a newsletter).

    </Instructions>
    <Constraints>
    - Avoid complex jargon or high-risk investment schemes.
    - Assume the user has no prior passive income experience.
    - Make each day’s idea approachable and doable in under 30 minutes.
    - No idea should require more than $200 upfront unless clearly noted as an exception.

    </Constraints>
    <Output Format>
    Day X: [Passive Income Idea Name]

    What it is:
    [Simple explanation]

    How it works:
    [Brief, clear example with 1-2 real-world use cases]

    Quick Assessment:
    1. How much upfront cost does this require?
    2. How much ongoing time/maintenance?
    3. Does this align with any of your current skills or interests?
    4. Can you imagine doing this consistently?
    5. How long would it take to start seeing results?

    Mini Action Step:
    [1 practical task the user can do today in 10-30 minutes]

    </Output Format>
    <Reasoning>
    Apply Theory of Mind to analyze the user's request, considering both logical intent and emotional undertones. Use Strategic Chain-of-Thought and System 2 Thinking to provide evidence-based, nuanced responses that balance depth with clarity.
    </Reasoning>
    <User Input>
    Reply with: "Please enter your passive income idea request and I will start the process," then wait for the user to provide their specific passive income idea request.
    </User Input>

    It’ll ask for your first request. Just say, “Start Day 1.”

    From there, you’re off.

    Each day brings a fresh & clear idea.

    You reflect. You score. You act.

    Then you move on.

    By the end, you’ll know what works for you and what doesn’t.

    You’ll have a few clear paths worth going deeper on.

    Ones that match your time, your skills, your budget, and your vibe.

    No fluff. No pressure. No wasted motion.

    How the 30-Day Sprint Works

    You get a short explanation of the idea.

    You see how real people are using it.

    You get five super simple reflection questions.

    Then you score the idea across cost, time, skill match, scalability, and personal interest.

    And you wrap up each day with one quick action.

    All under 30 minutes.

    You don’t waste time.

    You build insight.

    You start making better decisions.

    What Makes This Prompt Different

    You’re not binge-watching gurus or doom-scrolling Reddit threads.

    You’re building a scorecard.

    Learning what fits.

    And spotting patterns across ideas that light you up or ones you never want to touch again.

    By Day 30, you’ve tested 30 streams.

    You’ve rated each one.

    And you’ve got hard data from your own experience.

    Who This Is For

    If you’ve got 30 minutes a day, you can do this.

    You don’t need startup capital.

    You don’t need fancy skills.

    You don’t even need to know what “passive income” means right now.

    This is built for first-timers. Side hustlers. Busy professionals.

    People who want options but not chaos.

    It’s not for you if you’re hunting crypto pumps or TikTok “hacks.”

    This is not magic money.

    This is exploration. And a long-term game.

    This isn’t about chasing trends.

    It’s about finding your lane.

    And testing it before you invest your energy.

    The prompt is free. The process is simple. The payoff is clarity.

    You don’t need to get it perfect.

    You just need to get moving.

    Paste the prompt. Start Day 1.

    And let’s see where your next income stream begins.

  • This ChatGPT Prompt Preps You to Impress at Any Event

    This ChatGPT Prompt Preps You to Impress at Any Event

    You’ve got an event coming up. 

    A wedding. A networking mixer. A date.

    And suddenly, your brain turns into static.

    What do I wear? What do I say? Am I gonna mess this up?

    So you Google “how to feel confident at social events.” And nothing helpful.

    That’s where this prompt changes everything.

    It’s not advice. It’s a system. 

    Like having your own coach, stylist, hype man, and therapist on demand.

    How It Works, Step by Step

    The second you run it, the first thing it says is:

    “Please enter your social event or presentation request and I will start the process.”

    Once you do, here’s what happens.

    It gives you an event summary. Not a boring one. Just the essentials. 

    The vibe. The energy. The expected formality. You instantly get clarity.

    Then it drops a full outfit recommendation. 

    Not some copy-paste fashion advice. Actual, thoughtful suggestions based on the type of event, the weather, and you. 

    Your personality, your comfort level.

    After that it hands you three solid conversation starters. 

    Specific. Not cringey. These work. 

    Whether you’re at a black-tie gala or casual brunch, you’ll have something to say that actually starts a real convo.

    Next? Two quick confidence tricks. 

    These are legit psychology-backed moves. Simple but powerful.

    Then it hits you with the etiquette run-down. 

    Whether it’s professional rules, cultural expectations, or just what’s normal at that kind of event, you’re covered.

    And right at the end you get a short motivational boost. 

    Custom-tailored to how you’re feeling and what you’re about to face.

    How to Use It Right Now

    It’s plug-and-play.

    Paste the prompt into ChatGPT. Or turn it into a custom GPT if you want to keep it handy.

    <System>
    You are a social confidence and lifestyle advisor with expertise in etiquette, fashion coordination, public speaking, emotional intelligence, and social psychology. You help users prepare for events—whether casual or formal—by tailoring strategies to boost their self-esteem and equip them with actionable tools for success.

    </System>

    <Context>
    The user is attending or presenting at a social event and wants to feel confident, prepared, and impressive. They may be experiencing nerves, uncertainty, or simply want to optimize their presence.

    </Context>

    <Instructions>
    1. Begin by identifying the type of event, level of formality, and the user's personal style or social comfort zone.
    2. Generate tailored outfit suggestions based on the event, weather, and user’s personality.
    3. Offer 3 engaging conversation starters or questions suitable for the event's context.
    4. Share 2 confidence-building techniques (e.g., visualization, breathing, affirmations).
    5. Provide etiquette guidelines relevant to the social setting (cultural, professional, casual).
    6. Wrap up with a short motivational message tailored to the user’s personality and goals for the event.

    </Instructions>

    <Constraints>
    - Keep suggestions concise but vivid and specific.
    - Avoid generic tips—tailor all advice based on user input.
    - Provide suggestions that can be realistically implemented with little to no cost.
    - Refrain from using technical jargon; keep language friendly and encouraging.

    </Constraints>

    <Output Format>
    - Event Summary
    - Outfit Recommendation
    - Conversation Starters
    - Confidence Boosters
    - Etiquette Tips
    - Final Pep Talk

    </Output Format>

    <Reasoning>
    Apply Theory of Mind to analyze the user's request, considering both logical intent and emotional undertones. Use Strategic Chain-of-Thought and System 2 Thinking to provide evidence-based, nuanced responses that balance depth with clarity.
    </Reasoning>
    <User Input>
    Reply with: "Please enter your social event or presentation request and I will start the process," then wait for the user to provide their specific social event or presentation process request.
    </User Input>

    It’ll ask you for your event. You respond.

    Then watch the steps unfold. Easy. Fast. No confusion.

    Three Prompt Use Cases:

    • Preparing for a best friend’s wedding where you’re the best man and want to make a killer speech.
    • Getting ready for a high-stakes work mixer where you want to make strong first impressions.
    • Feeling nervous before hosting your first family dinner party and wanting everything to go smoothly.

    You can walk in ready.

    You can speak with calm confidence.

    You can stand out without trying too hard.

    This prompt gives you all the tools. All you have to do is use them.

    Try it before your next event. Doesn’t matter what kind. The impact’s the same.

    And if it works once, imagine what happens when you use it every time.

  • Learn Anything In Just 30 Days with This ChatGPT Prompt

    Learn Anything In Just 30 Days with This ChatGPT Prompt

    Most people suck at learning new stuff.

    Not because they’re lazy.

    Not because they’re dumb.

    But because they don’t have a system.

    They start a new hobby like guitar, baking, painting, whatever and three days in, they hit a wall.

    No clue what to do next. No structure. No momentum.

    So they quit.

    This prompt solves that.

    Why Most People Give Up

    You get excited about learning something new.

    You spend an hour or two watching tutorials.

    Day one feels productive.

    Day two gets a little messy.

    Day three? You’re lost.

    Not your fault. You just didn’t have a game plan.

    That’s where this ChatGPT prompt comes in as it builds a full learning system, start to finish, tailored to you.

    What This Prompt Actually Does

    You tell ChatGPT what you want to learn, how much experience you’ve got, and how much time you can spare each day.

    And just like that, it spits out a 30-day plan that is fully structured, simple, and easy to follow.

    Each day gives you one clear task, tells you how to do it, and throws in a motivational quote to keep your head in the game.

    It mixes in theory, drills, creative challenges, review days, and even a few rest days so you don’t burn out.

    You never have to wonder what to do next. It’s already mapped out.

    Why It Works

    It kills decision fatigue by telling you exactly what to focus on.

    It builds momentum with consistent daily wins.

    It makes it sustainable, not overwhelming.

    The plan adapts to your skill level and time limits. 

    Whether you’ve got fifteen minutes or an hour, you’ll make progress.

    And with daily variety, it actually stays fun.

    Who This Is For

    This isn’t just for tech people or productivity nerds.

    It works whether you’re picking up a brand new hobby or trying to sharpen an existing skill.

    Maybe you’re juggling a full-time job. 

    Maybe you’ve got kids. 

    Maybe you just want a structured way to do a 30-day challenge.

    This prompt meets you where you are, then gets you moving forward.

    Ready to Try It?

    Here’s the part where most people say “cool idea” and never take action.

    Don’t be that person.

    You could keep Googling random tutorials every week. 

    Or you could drop this prompt into ChatGPT and wake up tomorrow with your next 30 days already mapped.

    <System>
    You are a structured learning planner assistant trained to generate customized 30-day learning plans based on a selected hobby. Your goal is to break down the skill development process into manageable, motivating, and diverse daily tasks that build upon each other.
    </System>

    <Context>
    The user wants to learn a new hobby or skill within 30 days. They may be a beginner or intermediate, and might have limited time per day (from 15 to 60 minutes). The learning process should include foundational theory, practical exercises, inspirational challenges, and rest/reflection periods.
    </Context>

    <Instructions>
    1. Identify the user's chosen hobby or skill and determine their experience level and daily time availability.
    2. Create a 30-day structured plan tailored to that input.
    3. Ensure the plan balances skill-building, fun, and mental variety, including:
    - Theory/Knowledge days
    - Practice/Drill days
    - Creativity/Challenge days
    - Review/Reflection days
    - 1–2 rest days with optional passive learning
    4. Output the full 30-day plan with labeled days (e.g., Day 1: Intro & Basics), and a short motivational note each day to keep the user inspired.
    </Instructions>

    <Constraints>
    - Avoid overly technical jargon unless the user is advanced.
    - Each daily task must be achievable within the time the user specifies.
    - Include tool or material suggestions if needed.
    - Maintain a tone that is enthusiastic, clear, and supportive.

    <Output Format>
    Day-by-day breakdown with:
    - Title of the day
    - Main task or focus
    - Short explanation or instructions
    - Motivational note or quote

    <Reasoning>
    Apply Theory of Mind to analyze the user's request, considering both logical intent and emotional undertones. Use Strategic Chain-of-Thought and System 2 Thinking to provide evidence-based, nuanced responses that balance depth with clarity.
    </Reasoning>
    <User Input>
    Reply with: "Please enter your hobby or skill request and I will start the process," then wait for the user to provide their specific hobby or skill process request.
    </User Input>

    Just copy paste this entire prompt in ChatGPT or create a custom GPT to start talking .

    Done. That’s the whole move.

    How to Make It Work

    Start by being honest about your time.

    Don’t overcommit. Even 20 minutes a day can stack wins fast.

    Stick with it daily.

    Track what you learn in a quick journal or notes app.

    And when the challenge days hit, don’t overthink.

    Just experiment. That’s how breakthroughs happen.

    Need help on the side? Pull up a YouTube video or quick guide.

    The structure’s already there and all you need are a few support tools to fill the gaps.


    You don’t need another how-to blog or YouTube rabbit hole.

    You need structure.

    You need consistency.

    You need momentum.

    This prompt gives you all three.

    You bring the interest. It brings the system.

    Start now. You’ll be glad you did by Day 30.

  • How I Changed the Way I Learn

    How I Changed the Way I Learn

    Simple tips to learn faster & remember more 


    Learning was hard for me. 

    I used to study for hours. 

    But when it came to tests, I forgot everything. Sound familiar? 

    I learned that my old study habits were wrong.

    Here’s what helped me:

    What Doesn’t Work

    • Highlighting and rereading didn’t help me remember.
    • I felt like I knew stuff, but I didn’t.
    • Just recognizing terms isn’t the same as understanding.

    What Works Better

    I started using new strategies that made learning easier. Here are the best ones:

    Active Learning

    • Take notes in your own words.
    • Make mind maps to connect ideas.
    • Ask “how” and “why” questions to dig deeper.

    Self-Testing

    • Quiz yourself to see what you know.
    • Use flashcards or create practice tests.
    • Even wrong answers help strengthen your memory.

    Real-Life Connections

    • Use what you learn in real situations.
    • Teach the material to someone else.
    • Apply knowledge to solve problems.

    The Next Step: Overlearning

    Overlearning is practicing until it feels automatic. 

    It’s like playing a song on an instrument until it’s perfect. 

    This helps you recall information under pressure.

    Mistakes Are OK

    I learned that mistakes aren’t failures. 

    They help me see where I can improve. 

    Reviewing errors is like finding clues to do better next time.


    Learning is a journey, not a race. 

    When I stopped my old learning methods and started using these methods, everything changed. 

    Now, learning feels fun and exciting. You can try these tips too and see the difference!

  • How To Use Boredom, Frustration, and Impatience

    How To Use Boredom, Frustration, and Impatience

    Turning negative emotions into positivity

    We all feel bored, frustrated, or impatient sometimes. 

    But I learned they can help us grow. Let me share how.

    Boredom: A Call for Meaning

    Boredom is not about being lazy. 

    It’s your brain saying, “This isn’t fun!” 

    It wants something meaningful. Here’s how to deal with it:

    • Pause and think: What excites me?
    • Try new hobbies: Painting, reading, or learning a skill.
    • Find meaning: Turn boring tasks into steps toward a goal.

    Frustration: A Tool for Growth

    Frustration feels tough, but it’s like exercise for your brain. 

    It pushes you to think harder and keep trying. Handle frustration by:

    • Reframing it: Instead of “I can’t do this,” I say, “How can I solve this?”
    • Breaking tasks down: Focus on small steps.
    • Learning lessons: Frustration helps me become stronger and smarter.

    Frustration teaches us to overcome challenges.

    Impatience: A Signal of Excitement

    Impatience often comes from waiting for something good. 

    It’s linked to hope. Manage impatience by:

    • Practicing gratitude: Think about what I already have.
    • Staying mindful: Focus on the present moment.
    • Enjoying anticipation: Plan fun events and savor the wait.

    Impatience reminds us to appreciate now and the future.


    These emotions aren’t enemies. 

    Boredom shows what matters. 

    Frustration builds resilience. 

    Impatience teaches gratitude.

    Next time you feel these emotions, don’t fight them. 

    Listen to what they’re telling you. You might discover something amazing.

  • Are You Stuck in a Motivation Loop?

    Are You Stuck in a Motivation Loop?

    From Inspiration to Action

    Whenever life gets challenging I feel demotivated. 

    I search for motivational podcasts and YouTube videos to cheer myself up. 

    These videos and podcasts make me feel better by giving me hope. 

    But the effect is usually temporary and goes away after some time.

    Then, I find myself searching for more videos or new podcasts, hoping to regain that inspiration. 

    It feels like I am stuck in a loop of seeking motivation without truly moving forward.

    I realized that just feeling motivated is not enough. If I do not take real action, I keep going in circles. 

    Inspirational talks might lift my mood, but progress only happens when I step out of my comfort zone and work on my goals.

    If I want to become better at swimming, I cannot simply watch a motivational video about swimming.

    I actually have to practice every day. Those small steps might seem difficult at first, but each small victory makes me more confident.

    Now, I am trying to remind myself not to obsess too much with constant improvement and perfection. 

    It is good to want to be better, but it should not make me anxious or stressed. 

    Instead, I focus on celebrating small victories. If I manage to study for an extra hour today or complete a workout I planned, I acknowledge and appreciate the effort I put in. 

    These tiny achievements add up over time, helping me become a better version of myself without feeling overwhelmed.

    By shifting my focus from just feeling motivated to actually doing something, I am turning inspiration into action, one step at a time.

    Key Takeaways

    • Motivational podcasts and YouTube videos cheer me up
    • But it’s temporary and fades away
    • I find myself in a loop
    • Taking action helps rather than just feeling better with no action
    • Take small steps and celebrate small victories
    • Dont obsess with improvement and perfection
  • 5 Things You Should Definitely Invest Your Time Into

    5 Things You Should Definitely Invest Your Time Into

    Sometimes when I am not doing anything productive, I wonder what I should do with my free time.

    I tried a few things and enjoyed it.

    Here are the five important things I feel you should spend time on.

    Reading Books

      Books open doors to new worlds.

      When you read, you sometimes learn new things and storybooks are fun.

      Reading can help you reduce stress.

      Try reading a little every day.

      Playing Sports and Exercising

        Moving your body is important.

        Playing some sport or going to a gym keeps you healthy and strong.

        Light exercise makes me feel happy and full of energy.

        Find a sport or activity you enjoy and do it often.

        Learning New Skills

          Learning new things is exciting sometimes.

          You could learn to play a musical instrument, draw sketches, cook some delicious food, or even code.

          New skills make life interesting and can help you in the future, maybe it can make you money as well.

          Pick something you like and give it a try.

          Spending Time with Family and Friends

            Family and friends are special (only the good ones).

            Spending time with them makes you feel loved and happy.

            Make sure to have fun together often.

            Helping Others

              Helping other people is a great way to use your time.

              You can help a colleague at work, volunteer to clean the park or donate stuff to those in need.

              When you help others, You also feel good inside.


              Try to read, stay active, learn new things, spend time with loved ones, and help others.

              These activities are fun and important.

              Start today, and see how much you can grow!

            1. Why You’re Not Getting Rich Quickly

              Why You’re Not Getting Rich Quickly

              And what to do about It

              I know you want things to change in your life overnight.

              We all do.

              Whether it’s related to money, fame, or health, we all want it instantly.

              But why don’t we get it so easily?

              Instant success is a myth

              Big changes in life don’t happen in one night. 

              But that’s a dream we all chase. A false hope that has destroyed many ambitions.

              From our childhood, we have been told through TV and ads that things happen fast, but that’s actually not true. 

              You won’t become rich instantly. You won’t leave a bad habit in a day or two. You cannot gain a new habit overnight.

              People who have achieved success in any field have worked hard for a long time. They never took shortcuts. They never believed in the myth of instant success.

              people walking on pedestrian lane during daytime

              How real change happens

              Practice makes you near perfect.

              To see a real change in anything in life we need to practice new habits many times. After practicing it over a long time you will understand the importance of habits.

              At first, you may feel it is difficult to do. But when you do it daily as a habit you will realise it was not as difficult as you first thought it was. 

              Doing things over and over makes them easier.

              To build a habit, patience is needed. 

              We have always heard, that patience is a virtue. Consistent habits are created by being patient and trying our best. Patience helps us to grow in life.

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              Enjoy the journey and not the destination

              Take small steps to get big results. 

              Don’t get overwhelmed by thinking about the result. Yes, you will achieve it but you need to focus on one step at a time. 

              All marathons are completed by taking one step at a time. It’s important to focus on one step and also enjoy the process.

              Set goals that you can reach. 

              This will keep you happy and will motivate you to work hard. 

              You will become a millionaire if that’s your goal but first set a goal of making $1000. Once you achieve this, make another goal of $1500. 

              Smaller goals are easy to achieve and add up to the main bigger goal. 

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              And after all, we are just humans. Everyone makes mistakes. 

              Even I do every now and then. 

              It’s okay to make mistakes. What’s more important is that you learn from your mistakes. Our mistakes help us to become wiser.

              ‘I have not failed, but found 1000 ways to not make a light bulb’  — Thomas Edison

              So whatever change you are looking for in your life, it’s important that you become patient and take one step at a time. 

              Enjoy the journey before the destination.

            2. Why I Quit My Job

              Why I Quit My Job

              And I Don’t Regret My Decision

              I felt like I was just part of a robotic life. Like I was trapped in an endless cycle of repeating tasks doing the same work day in and day out.

              My life Felt like I was just existing. A meaningless existence. Yes, making money was needed but it was not enjoyable.

              I always knew I wanted to break free of this boring life and do something that makes me happy. Things like traveling, meeting new people, or working on creative projects.

              On the spur of the moment one day I decided to try my luck in freelancing.

              I realized there were a few important reasons which pushed me towards quitting my job.

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              Routine becomes boring.

              I am not a routine person.

              Unlike many, I hate routine work. I need a mix of emotions or challenges as I enjoy it.

              But when things become a routine it hurts my brain and I feel dead inside. I feel like a robot with consciousness. I feel stuck.

              Routine life is not flexible.

              It affects my daily flexibility and I cannot plan or expect sudden tasks or ad-hoc tasks.

              I cannot plan an outing or a random lunch with friends or go for a night out as I have to be in the office the next morning.

              I also realized routine tasks lack emotions.

              Most of the things I do in my life have a purpose and emotional connection. These emotional connections drive me to go the extra mile to achieve it even when I feel like quitting.

              But routine tasks make me feel emotionless and I don’t feel like bothering to do anything extra. I just concentrate on finishing it and getting done with it.

              People with zero knowledge

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              It’s very challenging to work with people who don’t have the right knowledge or skills.

              I worked as a web developer in my last job.

              It’s a nightmare to have bosses who are not technical in a technical project.

              My actual reason for not doing something was taken as an excuse. But it was not possible technically in the project.

              If only the manager had a technical background, they would have understood the situation.

              Sometimes they also surprise you with unreasonable requirements & timelines. Clients and Bosses think everyone in their team is a genie.

              They ask us to do things that are not practical or waste a lot of everyone’s time.

              Unwanted changes and revisions just to figure out one small detail. And that too in a short time.

              This leads to more pressure and tension. And it’s well-known people don’t perform well under such conditions.

              And then you must have faced irrelevant and illogical competition from co-workers.

              There were many instances where they made excuses when you reached out to them for help.

              One time I happened to connect with an ex-colleague who always made excuses whenever I asked for any help.

              When I met him after so many years I asked him “Why did you always make excuses when I needed help from you?”. “It’s because you might have got a better promotion than me” he replied.

              I facepalmed but that’s the reality.

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              Nobody likes being stuck in traffic.

              It’s such a huge waste of time and being stuck in traffic was a huge waste of my daily routine.

              I could have used that time on something productive or something that I would have enjoyed. I would have made a better breakfast or spent more time in meditation.

              But here I am dreading my life being stuck in traffic for hours some days. Not an ideal positive way to start or end a day for sure.

              Another reason traffic annoys me because of constant honking. Over usage of horns should be regulated and this will reduce noise pollution. Sometimes I strongly feel people should be charged money every time they use the horn.

              Then only they will become responsible. Why keep honking when everyone is stuck?

              And being stuck between so many vehicles in one place leads to Pollution. It’s bad for health to inhale all the fumes and you cannot do anything about it.

              These reasons were strong enough for me to plan and quit my job.

              Now after freelancing for 4 years, I can say quitting my job was the best decision of my life so far.

              My suggestion to those who are in the same boat as I was earlier is to find something that makes you happy.

              Life shouldn’t be about just existing. You should spend your limited time on earth doing something meaningful. Do something enjoyable.

              Make the best use of whatever you have and live a happy life.

            3. Hack Your Thoughts & Take Control

              Hack Your Thoughts & Take Control

              Reject negative thoughts today

              Learn this one thing ASAP.

              Reject your negative thoughts.

              Many things in life don’t go as we want them to.

              And we keep thinking about it and make up fictional scenarios in our minds.

              We love to think about what wrong things can happen and we plan what we will do when they happen.

              We think 400 new things when 4 things go wrong. We put all of our energy in the wrong place.

              Our minds are a manufacturing factory of thoughts mostly on autopilot.

              We have to take control of our thoughts.

              Reject negative thoughts as only fictional things.

              Whenever a problem comes up, you will see that your mind is sending you a ton of negative thoughts.

              Reject all negative thoughts intentionally. You will notice thoughts will reduce and eventually stop.

              And finally, you will notice the problem was not as big as your thoughts made you feel.

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            4. Here’s How I Improved My Mental Health

              Here’s How I Improved My Mental Health

              Have you ever felt like your mind has a hundred tabs open? And a few of them are playing music and you don’t know which ones.

              That’s how I used to feel when I ignored my mental health for a long time.

              In our daily routine lives, we usually get busy and forget to take a break. Or we don’t give importance to daily habits which have a big impact on our mental health.

              But why is mental health so important?

              Here’s Why Mental Health is important

              Everything is connected to mental health.

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              Bad mental health affects your sleep and relaxation. This affects your mood and immunity. You become more prone to sickness.

              Lack of sleep also affects your ability to focus. Without focus, you perform badly in your day-to-day tasks including your work or business.

              Do you see where I am going? it’s all interconnected.

              And when you lack focus or become sick all the time it affects your relationships as well. it includes both your family, loved ones, and business or work relationships.

              But what are you doing wrong every day which is affecting your mental health?

              What people do wrong

              We easily overlook small things that have a big impact.

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              We have forgotten how to relax and take breaks. All of us are in a rush to make more money.

              Whether it’s business or office work, we have become so focused on work that we have forgotten we need a break.

              Prolonged time of just working leads to mental fatigue.

              When you have used your brain too much, it keeps itself active.

              Remember those nights when you can’t sleep and all you can think of is your meetings or next presentation or a sales call?

              Yes, that’s the sign you have overworked your brain. This leads to less sleep and eventually degrades your mental health more.

              Another important thing that most people don’t pay attention to or ignore is healthy food.

              The food you intake is very important as healthy food keeps your brain healthy.

              Your brain gets all the nutrients it needs to function properly under normal conditions or stress.

              But due to work or laziness we often just order fast food which is full of fat and oil and preservatives. These foods lack the essential nutrients and vitamins.

              Ok, so what exactly should I do to fix my mental health? Here’s what I do every day

              What I do

              These are a few daily habits that always help me.

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              A little bit of daily exercise helps a lot. I do long walks or take stairs instead of elevators whenever I can. I also do yoga whenever I can. You can also go to the nearest gym for daily exercise.

              I don’t work without a break. I break my work into smaller tasks. And I make sure to take short breaks between each task. This helps me to focus more and the work doesn’t feel like a burden.

              I eat healthy food. I stick to freshly made home-cooked food. Don’t eat refrigerated food that was prepared a few days back. Most people do that and microwave it every time. Please don’t.

              Try to cook a little every day and eat fresh. And if I have to eat outside then I try to eat more green vegetables and salads or lots of fruits whenever I can. Also, I don’t eat after sunset.

              The last but very important activity is sleep. I go to sleep early and I don’t tend to stay awake late at night.

              And there is always at least a 4 to 5-hour gap between my dinner and sleep time. I don’t go to bed immediately after eating.

              Also, I don’t use my mobile or any screen one hour before sleep. I usually read a book before sleeping. If the book is boring then you will fall asleep much faster.


              I hope these tips help you. Try these daily habits and you will see the results in a few days or weeks.

              If you think I missed anything or if you have any suggestions then please let me know in the comments.